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The Art of Saying "No" - March 9, 2025 - Lent 1

 

Homily for Lent 1

March 9, 2025

The Art of Saying “No”

 

            Jesus is able to overcome these three vicious temptations because He was strengthened through fasting. Wait – strengthened? Wouldn’t someone be weakened through fasting? Not at all – fasting and self-denial are the critical tools on the pathway to spiritual strength.

            Every society in history knew this. Consider the ancient warriors of Sparta, whose rigorous training is legendary. They were issued only one cloak, so that they would have to endure the cold winters shivering. Their food was meager, forcing them to be resourceful. They slept on the floor, practiced intense physical exercise, and lived a regimented life. Harsh? Definitely. But during the battle of Thermopylae, 300 Spartan soldiers were able to hold off 300,000 men for seven days, giving everyone in the city a chance to retreat, saving lives. Their discipline paid off! Even in our modern day, the rigorous training for the Marine Corps or Navy SEALS seems ruthless, but I am certainly glad that these noble men and women are defending our country.

            Sadly, Christians do not spiritually train through fasting nearly enough. Sorry to be blunt, but most American Catholics have grown spiritually weak and unable to resist serious temptation, because they have no idea how to deny themselves even a chocolate bar. So let’s discuss why we must fast, and how to do it.

            First, fasting brings about freedom. Remember the old Lays’ Potato Chip slogan? “Bet you can’t eat just one.” How often have we struggled to say no to that potato chip, that donut, that impure website, that word of gossip? We find ourselves trapped in slavery if we do not develop the strength to say “no” to ourselves. Most temptation is a battle between our flesh and our will – which one will have mastery? Our will is like a muscle – the more we exercise it, the stronger it becomes. So fasting – denying ourselves food or other pleasure – exercises our will, strengthening it, so that we can more easily deny ourselves a sinful pleasure. A man who can deny his flesh is a man who is not a slave to his flesh. Fasting leads to freedom.

            Second, fasting puts love into action. Once a man came to his priest halfway through Lent and said, “Father, I tried to give up dessert for Lent, but it was too hard, so I gave up.” The priest responded, “It wasn’t too hard – your love was too small.” Love is sacrifice – if we love someone, we want to give up things for them. So if we truly love God, we desire to make small sacrifices – and even big ones. One student in my Confirmation class asked me recently, “Fr. Joseph, is it bad that I have a desire to be a martyr?” I said, “No, it’s a very great blessing – because it means you have such a love for God that you want to give all for Him.”

            Third, fasting clears a space for God in our lives. Giving up our smartphone gives us time for prayer. Feeling the peck of hunger makes us realize that our true hunger is for God. We only have a limited amount of time, energy, attention, and money in our life – when we deny ourselves something, this frees up a space in our life to give to God.

            Fourth, fasting helps us identify with the poor. Most of the world still feels hunger every day – in solidarity with them, can we not experience the pinch of hunger for a bit? Most of the world does not have access to the luxuries we do – can we not give something up and pray for them? Fasting, then, is closely connected to almsgiving – the money we save from not getting the triple-shot venti latte can be given to a charity. After all, Tolstoy once said, “I am a participant in a crime if I have superfluous food and another has none.”

            Finally, fasting is obedience to Christ. Jesus Himself said, “Unless you deny yourself, take up your cross, and follow Me, you cannot be My disciple.” He was quite serious – daily self-denial is intrinsic to the life of a Christian. And, of course, He gave us the example of fasting in today’s Gospel. But it even goes further back than Christ. St. Basil recognized, “Fasting is as old as mankind. It was given as a law in paradise. The first commandment Adam received was do not eat.”

            But I can hear the objection in many of your hearts – doesn’t God want us to be happy? Why would He create such good pleasures if we weren’t supposed to enjoy them? Ah, fasting and self-denial is not about denying the goodness of the body, or saying pleasure is bad, any more than a diet is about denying the goodness of food. People diet because they are choosing a higher good (their health) over a lower good (this donut). They are choosing a long-term good over a short-term good. Likewise, fasting and self-denial is about choosing a higher good (God, eternal life) over a lesser good (pleasure).

            I can hear a second objection – we shouldn’t give up, we should take on – do something extra for God for Lent. Yes, that’s great, go for it – but don’t give up fasting. We should do all three (prayer, fasting, and almsgiving) and fasting is absolutely critical to growing in the spiritual life. So as you take on something positive this Lent, do not abandon the ancient practice of fasting – do both.

            So how do we fast? A wise priest once told me, “A sacrifice isn’t a sacrifice unless it hurts, unless it costs you something.” So, giving up spinach because you hate it is not a sacrifice! All you kids who want to give up homework for Lent – sorry, not a sacrifice. Choose something you love, and give it up because you love God more.

            I find it helpful to write down my fasting plans. It can also be helpful to be accountable to someone – your spouse, a friend – so they can ask how it’s going. You can fast from any pleasurable thing – smartphones, Youtube, unnecessary purchases, going out to eat, unholy music, or anything else. You could rise earlier to pray, or make it to Mass. But the traditional fast does involve food, and I can testify that a food-fast has the most spiritual power. Give up dessert, or drink nothing but water, or refrain from eating between meals, or skip a meal, or go vegan. Feel the pangs of hunger and unite them to Christ’s suffering on the Cross. However you choose to fast and deny yourself, we must practice them, in obedience to Christ and so that we train and discipline our bodies so that we can more easily resist temptation.

            I close with St. Augustine’s words about fasting: “Fasting cleanses the soul, raises the mind, subjects one’s flesh to the spirit, renders the heart contrite and humble, scatters the clouds of concupiscence, quenches the fire of lust, and kindles the true light of chastity.”

            If we learn to say “no” to ourselves, we will soon find it very easy to generously say “yes” to God.

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